Yes, you can date your husband again.
And I’m not referring to simply having a date night. I mean living as if y’all are a hot new item…because you are.
The great storyteller Aesop told a great fable called the Goose and the Golden Egg. It goes like this:
ONE day a countryman going to the nest of his Goose found there an egg all yellow and glittering. When he took it up it was as heavy as lead and he was going to throw it away, because he thought a trick had been played upon him. But he took it home on second thoughts, and soon found to his delight that it was an egg of pure gold. Every morning the same thing occurred, and he soon became rich by selling his eggs. As he grew rich he grew greedy; and thinking to get at once all the gold the Goose could give, he killed it and opened it only to find,—nothing.
(excerpt from Harvard Classics, retold by Joseph Jacobs, New York: PF Collier and Co, 1914)
In any relationship, especially marriage, those golden eggs represent the synergy and good will that exists between two people who are in tune with one another. To receive the “golden eggs” we have to make regular, positive deposits into the relationship. To be quite honest, I’ve had friendships where I’ve made withdrawals from the other person and haven’t deposited into the friendship. I’ve also had friendships where I allowed my emotional bank account to be drained. In both situations, the friendships didn’t last. However, the friendships that have lasted though the years have been the ones where we’ve made mutual deposits into each other.
The same goes for marriage. Consistent acts of kindness, open communication and honesty helps a marriage grow exponentially. Here are three tips to help you date your man all over again:
- Dress to impress. Dressing to impress is a challenge for me. (Which is why I talk about it so much!) Right now, I am nearing lunchtime, and I still in my sweats. (But I am writing and cleaning my house like a champ, lol) However, I will kick in into overdrive and actually look decent before my man comes come. Do you have any outfits reserved for special occasions? Try making today a “special occasion” and wear one of those lovely outfits.
- Laugh more. One of my favorite pastimes is telling jokes with my spouse. It’s easy to get caught up in the nitty gritty of life and forget to laugh, but like Proverbs says: “laughter does a good medicine!” I like romantic comedies so if we run out of jokes, we’ll rent a (PG-13) rom-com.
- Add in the element of surprise. Make an impromptu phone call in the middle of the day to say ‘I Love You.’ Or give a small gift that you think he’d appreciate.
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